The man with the cap ‘It’s easy for me to just bend it anyhow’
Font size: YEMISI ADENIRAN 19/03/2011 00:26:00
Not many people know why Adebayo Faleti wears his Fila (cap) the way he does.The 73 yearold actor and culture icon shared the secret behind his unusual style with YEMISI ADENIRAN
what informs your peculiar way of donning your cap?
Nothing, I do not know how to style it and with it sewn this long, it is easier for me to just bend it anyhow.
Where did you grow up and what fond memories of your childhood do you have?
I grew up in the village and you can imagine how much fun that was. It was much excitement that many children of today are not likely to understand for obvious reasons. I was the first born of my father, so, I had all the attention from them. He would endeavour to put me through all the necessary training and exposure within his power and jurisdiction to make me a proper child and it was all interesting. I was allowed to be part of all the pranks that children engaged in and my ‘sins’ were gladly forgiven. There were rivers to swim in, forests to hunt in, drums to beat and many other beautiful things to remember. There were those wonderful days of moonlight tales when we listened to legendary and thrilling stories that are related to issues of life. It was all fun. My father, for instance, made me to read Yoruba texts and story books to his hearing every evening, this way, I managed to get well trained. He was committed to anything that would make me successful in life. I honestly owe my success to his tolerance.
What were the circumstances of your birth?
Were you born with a silver spoon in your mouth?
I grew up in the village and you can imagine how much fun that was. It was much excitement that many children of today are not likely to understand for obvious reasons. I was the first born of my father, so, I had all the attention from them. He would endeavour to put me through all the necessary training and exposure within his power and jurisdiction to make me a proper child and it was all interesting. I was allowed to be part of all the pranks that children engaged in and my ‘sins’ were gladly forgiven. There were rivers to swim in, forests to hunt in, drums to beat and many other beautiful things to remember. There were those wonderful days of moonlight tales when we listened to legendary and thrilling stories that are related to issues of life. It was all fun. My father, for instance, made me to read Yoruba texts and story books to his hearing every evening, this way, I managed to get well trained. He was committed to anything that would make me successful in life. I honestly owe my success to his tolerance.
Let’s talk about your love life. What was it like and when did you get married?
I’m an African man and in those days, our styles were different from the way you people do it these days. We weren’t careless and were straight forward than you people. I did not marry early, I think I got married at the age of 30 or so and that was some 10 years after my peers. My mother was worried but like I said, my father was supportive and more tolerant. And you really can’t blame her, she was acting normally; she wanted to be sure that all was well with me. I had almost everything late; education and marriage, but we thank God all has ended well.
Are you a polygamist?
No, I am not. I am married to just one woman. I live with one wife at a time. But really, I would have loved to be a polygamist.
Why?
It is the best way to manage women. You know, it is only one woman that can inflict any punishment on a man. If they are two, it is not possible. You will simply boycott her room and go to the other. By the time you go to her afterwards, she will receive you with open arms.
But they can gang up against you?
That is not possible. I would not have permitted unity or friendliness between them. I would have made sure they were poles apart and this would disallow them from conspiring against me. The best way is to make them enemies and you will enjoy yourself. I really want to work on a movie that talks about true friendship, true love. The movie will dwell on the recipe for a good marriage which will be based on true friendship. Couples to be should be true friends who are ready to bear each other’s burden. It is good to have your friend as your wife or husband. Friendship should precede everything. That is why the olden days’ marriages lasted longer. The courtship was usually long enough and that availed them enough space to study and know each other well.
Offline
Send Email
Posts
July 19, 2008 at 12:50 am | edit Dear Sir/Madam,
Kindly enlightene me: On what occasions does one use the greeting expression – E ku eti’gbo? Is it for good news or for bad news? e.g. can we greet someone who has just received a bad news about a loved one with the expression: E ku eti igbo?
A relative told me that we use ‘E ku eti’gbo’ only for good news, e.g. news of success. Please advise.
Thank you,
Jide
July 25, 2008 at 1:54 pm | edit Brother Jide Sadiku, ore mi(my friend )tells me that it is used only for BAD news. Don’t be surprised if certain Yorubas conflict on what a term or how a word is used because there are many dialects involved so ..now this ore is from Oyo,and speaks the core Yoruba that standard Yoruba comes from so evidently originally this expression was used only to break bad news. So any Yoruba who says otherwise either has limited knowledge of Yoruba or in his dialect they have a different use.
September 24, 2008 at 8:55 am | edit Dear sir,the expression “e kuetigbo can be used both ways,either for badnews or goodnews
February 1, 2010 at 11:40 pm | edit Yoruba is beautiful! Got A1 in WAEC so proud
February 2, 2010 at 4:27 pm | edit fromAfricaWeCame we are the most proud of you! CONTINUE TO SAVE YORUBA BY NOT MIXING IT WITH ENGLISH AND DESTROYING IT! OMO YORUBA DAADAA! OLUWA A BUKUN YIN O! ASE!E TOJU EDE YORUBA DAADAA!
April 30, 2010 at 2:29 pm | edit Hello,
please I need some help I am in search for the Youruba name ör meaning word for Ubuntu zulu philosophy can you help?